Friday, June 24, 2016

These are the facts:

1. I liked him.
2. I told him.
3. After much convo, he kissed me.
4. After more convo, he asked me to be his girlfriend
5. I said yes.
6. The relationship lasted a little over two months.
7. During that time, we had sex.
8. He broke up because he still had feelings for his ex.
9. He said he wanted to be best friends again.
10. That would require things going back to the way they were before any of this happened.
11. Before any of this happened, we would only talk every few months, via text. Maybe on facetime, but rarely.
12. We are "just friends" now. That means that he no longer owes me anything. He gave me what he owed me, which was a thorough and justifiable explanation.
13. The breakup cannot be undone.
14. It is legal for him to get another girlfriend once he feels better because we are no longer in a relationship.
15. He does not owe me a text.
16. I do not owe him a text.
17. It was TOO early for a relationship, for the both of us.
18. The relationship ended in the best way possible, under the circumstances. (Early enough to avoid even more trauma, and with a clean break/closure/the decision to remain friends.)
19. It was not my fault.
20. There was nothing I could have done better or differently that would have made it last.
21. I didn't end it.
22. It is legal for me to talk to other people with the intent of entering a relationship.
23. I don't owe him anything ( no matter what it feels like).
24. I rely on people too much. I will stop going to others for support and/or help.
25. I will become self-sufficient, and self-reliant.
26. I am beautiful.
27. I do not need to be in a relationship to feel validated.
28. My feelings are valid.
29. Just because everything was "done right," and "should be" a certain way, doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt.
30. It does hurt, because I liked him a lot.
31. It's okay for me to acknowledge that a big part of the pain in my chest is a result of knowing that I'm no longer in a "more-than-friends" relationship with him.
32. There is NO future with him.
33. Because it's over.
34. I do want a future with him as more than a friend. It's okay to acknowledge that, too.
35. Now that I've acknowledged that, IT WILL NOT HAPPEN.
36. It's not up to me to "make a move" or anything like that. I did my part, and did my BEST, and it didn't work out.
37. On that note, I DID MY BEST. I did all I could, all I knew how, and it still ended. Too bad.
38. Nothing can change the fact that it ended.
39. I miss when things were uncomplicated between us and we were truly just friends.
40. In order to get back to that, I NEED SPACE.
41. He is a person who ALSO NEEDS SPACE.
42. It used to be okay not to hear from him for a month or two or three or six or ten.
43. In order to go back to "just friends," we have to not text/speak for a long period of time, and I have to be okay with it.
44. That WILL TAKE TIME.
45. It has only been sixteen days since the breakup. That's just over two weeks. Everything takes time. Getting over Cody took 3 years, and that was from a 7-month long semi-relationship sans sex.
46. It hurts, but I will be okay.
47. I will not text him every day, because, who does that? Certainly not people who are not in relationships. That's weird.
48. I will get over my feelings for him IN TIME. And in the meanwhile, I will be OKAY.

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